monogamous http://www.artwoo.com Returned search results for monogamous Copyright 2008 Tue, 02 Dec 2008 00:02:33 +0000 http://www.artwoo.com/rss/monogamous Why Today's Society Actively Encourages The Cheating Spouse http://www.artwoo.com/article/why-todays-society-actively-encourages-the-cheating-spouse http://www.artwoo.com/article/why-todays-society-actively-encourages-the-cheating-spouse#comments Wed, 30 Aug 2006 00:27:04 +0000 cheating spousesmonogamous relationshipmonogamous animalscheating wivescheating spousemonogamous relationshipsbirds show http://www.artwoo.com/article/why-todays-society-actively-encourages-the-cheating-spouse monogamous relationships but one clear fact as we know it is that today's ever evolving society is a breeding ground for the .

Scientists characterize a monogamous relationship as a breeding pair who share the same nest in a common territory but most importantly 'have frequent contact'. It has been clearly noted that monogamous males are involved in parental care, spend there energy ensuring the safety and security of their family and reject intrusion into the 'nest'. Those who enjoy a greater freedom in life and roam a wider territory are more likely to cheat on their spouse than someone who enjoys the confines of an all encompassing and close relationship.

The most are birds with over 90% of species pairing up with exclusive rights and joint parental care. Not all scientists are in agreement but evidence suggests that far more commitment to their partners and family than humans with very few opting to relinquish their duties as husband, father and family provider.

What is interesting to note, and a fact that can then be associated with our continually changing society, is that monogamy (in females) rarely occurs when the female is left to roam through a larger territory with free access to other males rejecting the confines of a solitary environment. It is then easy to see that animals as well as humans are susceptible to cheating on their spouse when it comes to an opportunity, as they see it, being handed to them on a plate.

When studying nature and combining it with what we are now seeing within society its then more easy to understand that society as we now know it is developing in such a way as to actively encourage both cheating men and to seek sexual relationships outside of the marital bed. The ever increasing number of has a distinct link to the life we now live.

The freedom that we have in our modern world with the general practice of partners enjoying different activities and generally doing their own thing in much of their spare time acts as a catalyst for cheating spouses.

If you consider how easy infidelity can occur and understand why we are, in a way, channeling our relationships in such a way as to actively and openly encourage cheating we begin to understand and accept the theory that for a relationship to grow and flourish you have to spend quality time with your partner and not base a relationship around ships that pass in the night. Terry Ross is te author on and the creator of: http://www.commonmarriageproblems.marriagehealth.com/Why_Men_Cheat.html ]]> Would Polyamory Be The Answer For You? http://www.artwoo.com/article/would-polyamory-be-the-answer-for-you http://www.artwoo.com/article/would-polyamory-be-the-answer-for-you#comments Sat, 19 Aug 2006 22:27:14 +0000 western culturesemotional relationshipemotional tieseastern culturesmenage a troispolyamoryharem women http://www.artwoo.com/article/would-polyamory-be-the-answer-for-you Polyamory is where a number of (greater than two) people form a social and sexual family unit. The conventional arrangement throughout most of the world especially in is for a family to be made up of a man and women together with their children if any.

In some there is the harem, where one man has more than one woman for sex, status and variety. One of the is normally in charge of the others. In western cultures the similar arrangement is called polygamy (and is usually outlawed when the man marries more than once without divorce). Often the women and their children live separately with the man sharing his time between the various homes or the man has left a marriage and remarried without divorcing first.

Then there is 'having affairs' when one or both partners have a separate relationship usually secret and usually 'part time' and temporary.

Different from any of these is 'swinging' where (usually both partners) are involved in sexual 'fun' with other people, often together, without emotional 'love' ties with the people outside their relationship.

More rarely a three way relationship can develop where all three people live together () in a sexual and (together with children if any).

Polyamory is similar to three people living together but goes further. The term can be applied to any sort of open relationships but it often involves a sort of commune of two or more 'families' where there are and sexual relationships between various people in the group. The ties and sexual activities are not necessarily 'even' throughout the group but, while the group is successful, all the (adult) participants agree to the various intra group arrangements.

The advantages of polyamory include the chance for people to vary and satisfy their sex lives and their intimate social lives with a wider variety of people within the group without the difficulties with cheating on a partner or the issue of jealousy.

For example there might be two couples that join together with one extra woman as was the case described in the New Scientist (8 July 2006). In this case one couple had had relationships with other people, but instead of their relationship splitting, the other people joined up with them and a third woman joined to create a complex group of two men, three women and one child (with another on the way).

These polyamorous arrangements can obviously become very complex, both physically and emotionally. Infidelity in monogamous relationships is estimated to be between 60% and 70% and is often the cause of the breakdown of the original relationship. You might have thought that polyamorous relationships would be less stable than conventional ones and even more prone to breakdown, but apparently the limited amount of evidence that there is, suggests that 'poly' couples stay together just as long as monogamous ones.

However with polyamorous arrangements often being very flexible I am not sure how they measure that!

You will find an excellent definition of polyamory at wikipedia.org. Roger Armstrong writes for http:www.sextingles.co.uk the online UK sex toys website. See http://www.sextingles.co.uk/a/article-index.html for other articles. ]]> Pisces http://www.artwoo.com/article/pisces http://www.artwoo.com/article/pisces#comments Sun, 23 Sep 2007 06:19:58 +0000 piscesanathemamonogamousgo with the flowintenselyrare creaturemalleable nature http://www.artwoo.com/article/pisces Pisces, you probably have a lot of friends, as you have an accepting and that makes it easy for other people to be around you. A Pisces is more likely to rather than swim upstream to try to change people or their environment http://www.bookmarketings.info

They can be more emotional, rather than rational and analytical. They don't thrive in highly disciplined environments. Nine-to-five jobs are to the Pisces nature. They are drawn to situations where they can use their artistic gifts and their appreciation of art and nature. They love luxury and pleasure. They can think on their feet and an enjoy new situations and change. They are happiest in the fields of music, literature or art.

Who's the ideal partner for the Pisces. Not the rugged, caveman type, for sure. A relationship with a Pisces will be meeting of the mind and spirit, less so than the body. Pisces are cerebral and not sexual. The need to be courted gently. They are intensely loving and loyal and have a nature. Don't abuse this .

If you're a Pisces, you may find yourself occasionally being walked over or taken advantage of because of your fluid nature. You may need to find ways to assert yourself that's in harmony with your psyche. Because you tend to go with the flow and live in the moment, you might have a money-management style that can leave you short of funds at times. You may need to be stricter with yourself to ensure that doesn't happen. Next time you're drifting around a department store, just do a quick tally of everything before you get to the cashier. Put at least half of it back, if not more. Chances are it will still be there the next time you have money in your pocket! http://www.careersemployments.info ]]> Evolution Theory And Humans' Nature http://www.artwoo.com/article/evolution-theory-and-humans-nature http://www.artwoo.com/article/evolution-theory-and-humans-nature#comments Sat, 15 Apr 2006 14:50:03 +0000 cheetah rungene poolevolution theorypreferencesmalecheetahssurvival http://www.artwoo.com/article/evolution-theory-and-humans-nature evolution theory in schools. Well most of us do.

However, what's taught in schools are just basic. What most people, especially religious fundamentalists do not want you to know is that evolution theory can very naturally explain human nature.

It's not in school. So I'll tell you here. I'll start from the least shocking conclusions first and then we'll go to the most politically incorrect ones people have been trying to hide from you.

Why fast? Simple. In ancient time, some Cheetah run fast, some Cheetah ran slow. that run fast, gather more food, and live. Such Cheetah, then get married, form a family, and life offspring.

The slow Cheetah die. Got it so far? Here we go...

Here, we see that evolution fine tuned Cheetah traits, namely, promoting Cheetahs that run fast.

It turns out, evolution do not only govern physical traits, like how fast you can run and other capabilities. Evolution also fine tuned . Preferences that are working out in the are preferences that are hard wired in our genes.

Those are preferences that we don't even have to think about. We just feel like doing it.

For example, most of us have strong preferences to have sex with the opposite sex. Why? Because those who do live have decendants and those who don't went extinct.

Nothing strange, nothing bizzare.

Now here we go...

Say one make 1000 kids. Say another male make 1 kids. Which one will survive better in the gene pool? The one making 1000 kids.

You see, gene pool is not a boolean value. Survival is not for the fit but for the fittest.

Preferences that work in the gene pool in the past are preferences that are common nowadays.

Ugh, I can sense that the conservative will start going back to their bible. Not yet. Here's more.

One obvious way to make genetic copies of ourself is by making kids.

Now, if you're a male, how would you maximize the number of kids you make?

You do so by mating with as many females as possible. Males that mate with more women, and produce more kids, like Genghis Khan, will survive better in the genepool, in the past.

In fact, a genetic testing shows that the y chromosome of Genghish Khan is the same chromosome with 1 out of 4 people in Asia. Now that's, success.

Let me repeat. Preferences that used to work in the past are preferences that are common nowadays. So, what do common typical males want nowadays? Mate with as many females as possible.

Not necessarily making kids. Our preferences are set up in the past, where sex and kids are inseparable. There are no contraception whatsoever.

So males want as many females as possible. It is normal to want as many females as possible. In fact, the "normality" of those who are homosexual is not far different than the normality of males that are monogamous.

Successful males are males that can make a lot of money, gain huge political power, and mate with many females. That's what males want.

What do women want? Women want the best genes. Those women that pick the best genes will produce more successful sons. How do women measure the quality of a male's genetic material? By success. Got so far?

Now, we got an issue. There are the same number of males and females. If one male is successful, the others don't get any.

And that's the main sources of conflicts all over the world. When we're not at war, we're in a race. When we're in a race, those who are not competitive will want to knock down those running fast. Such preferences are called envy.

Different societies then have different ways to balance tolerance toward success and some socialism to appease those who are not successful.

The conservative, for example, allow economic success but demand socialism through life long monogamous relationship. The liberal, for example, allow sexual success but demand socialism in economy.

None of which are optimum, in my opinion. I wrote plenty of articles suggesting how better social contracts can benefit both the rich and the poor.

For example, taxing kids, rather than income and paying dividend to all citizens, will allow the poor to postpone making kids and have enough capital to get them rich.

Now, that's the basic of evolution theory on humans' nature and preferences. I guess that's all for an article.

Properly understood, evolution theory can be very useful. We can understand why there are many criminalization against consensual acts. We'll see that those laws are there to protect disgruntled competitors.

We'll see why there are so many wars over religious doctrines. That happens because to be successful in countries heavily influenced by envy, the wise need to keep pitting people against each other.

Many more are like this. Properly understood, we can correctly predict the outcome of our choices more accurately. Then we can come up with strategies that will result in what we want more. On the other hand, those who are blind will be eaten by those who see.

It's toward ones' best interest to learn and understand evolution theory. Ignore evolution theory at our own peril. Jim Thio is a silver medalist in International Physics Olympiad. He's learning evolution theory to understand humans nature. He freely helps humans to be happier. He visions a better world where the productive make more kids and the parasites get more cash. His website is at http://GenePoolSurvivalGuide.com ]]> How To Help Poverty Without Enlarging It? http://www.artwoo.com/article/how-to-help-poverty-without-enlarging-it http://www.artwoo.com/article/how-to-help-poverty-without-enlarging-it#comments Thu, 13 Apr 2006 03:00:07 +0000 genetic qualityeugenicshttpgovernmentsmoneypolygamyrich people http://www.artwoo.com/article/how-to-help-poverty-without-enlarging-it
Wouldn't both be better off if the rich makes more kids and the poor gets more welfare?

Am I suggesting ? No. Not the one where actively do actually. I wrote another article how active eugenics, just like any governments programs, can go really wrong.

I disagree with many solutions proposed by http://whatwemaybe.org/.. The website underestimates the twistedness of human opinion due to envy. Some of the solutions, like legalization of is natural. Most can set bad precedents that'll turn eugenic into a dysgenic.

A proper understanding of what's really going on will show us a much more humane and natural solution. Perhaps, what we need are not active government programs to improve human . We need only to reduce the governments' interference that tend to reduce human genetic quality.

It is very unnatural that the poor make more kids.

want to make kids more than the poor. If I am not rich, I do not want to make any kid. I just want to enjoy life. If I am a millionaire, I want to make 2-3 kids. If I am a billionaire, I want to make thousands.

The more I make, the more kids I want to make. Most people are obviously like me.

Raising a kid takes money. Each dollar spent on your kids' university education is every dollar you cannot use to watch a movie, buy video games, or go on vacation. For those with limited cash, they'll have to make a choice between enjoying life more or make more kids.

However, if you're a billionaire, money means little. The cost of raising your kids will be insignificant for your happiness. Mom, Tom's college fee costs $1000,000.00. Oh well, we'll settle for a smaller yacht then. You see....

Not only the does rich naturally want to make more kids, the rich value an option to make a kid more. Imagine if God has a vending machine where we buy kids from. If God says, "You can make one more kid, but you have to pay $ 1 million for it."

Would you pay? If you're a billionaire, it's an easy decision.

An option to make one more kid is worth more for the rich than for the poor. When two people value the same thing differently, they will both be better off if one gets more of what they value even if that means they get less of what they value less.

Say, A - value, an option to make a kid by one thousand dollars. Say, B-value, an option to make a kid by one million dollars. And say both reproduce asexually through cloning, for simplicity sake. Say everyone starts off with a right to make one kid. B, would sell his right to make a kid, which worth only $5000 for him anyway to A right?

Alternatively, if governments tax kids rather than income, for example. The rich and the poor will be both better off. The rich will be better off because they can make more kids even though they have to pay a lot for it. The poor will be better off because they'll have more money and higher standard of living, even though that means they'll have less kids.

Now, governments schemes are not really consensual. However, morality comes from social contracts, which is more like a mutually agreed compromise based on mutually cherished prejudices.

Currently, the social contract that we have is that the poor gets more welfare if they make more kids. So the poor cannot choose to make less kids and get more money. The only way the poor can get more welfare money is if they make more kids, in which case the money goes to feed the kids. In neither case, the poor has an easy way out for higher standard of living.

I think a social contract where the poor will get more welfare check when they have less rather than more kids will make the poor happier. Many of them can then use the money to either get rich or enjoy life without being burdened by kids.

Tax payers will be happier too. If the poor make less kids then there will be less welfare recipients. We humanely solve poverty problems in ways that do not make poverty grow.

And finally, women prefer rich males. This alone will improve the expected value of the number of kids a male make and his capability to make money.

However, this effects doesn't happen a lot due to governments' active discouragement of any alternative besides life long monogamous relationships. Government education, for example, teach romance in school while prohibiting porn from kids.

Marriage, is a trap to mitigate disparity of sexual desirability and romance is the lure. Eliminating government censorship and letting the market handle the rest will go a long way to encourage reproduction of humans with superior genetic quality.

Of course, unsexy people will not agree and will vote for any political party that promote censorship of any opinion that encourages the alternatives of life long monogamous marriage, like the Republican.

There are those who know that if they can't run the fastest, they will simply hit those who do. A very practical way to prevent others from getting ahead is by calling getting ahead something that's so bad it can't possibly be consensual and hence has to be prohibited.

Giving the poor more money, if they postpone making kids, will make the deal better for those who run slow too. It's simply a more efficient social contract. Under democracy, we need only 50% vote. That'll probably decide how much kids' tax that'll win the vote. About The Author: Jim Thio is a silver medalist in International Physics Olympiad He's learning evolution theory to understand humans' nature and come up with Pareto Optimal solutions for social problems. Jim's articles and e-books can be found at http://GenePoolSurvivalGuide.com ]]> Genetics Versus Culture -- The Quest For Fidelity http://www.artwoo.com/article/genetics-versus-culture-the-quest-for-fidelity http://www.artwoo.com/article/genetics-versus-culture-the-quest-for-fidelity#comments Sat, 17 Jun 2006 12:32:46 +0000 homo sapiens sapienscavesaustralopithecus ramidusbcecivilizedbillionsgenetics http://www.artwoo.com/article/genetics-versus-culture-the-quest-for-fidelity Homo sapiens sapiens) is an animal. Staying within the bounds of popular thinking, the first man was . This ancestor of modern man had his chance on the planet from about 5 million years (Before the Current Era) through 4 million years BCE.

Our species, as it has evolved, has spent some 5 million years living in -- or worse -- and less than three thousand years out of the caves. Let's put that another way to better illustrate the vast difference here. Humans have spent almost 2 Billion days eking out their survival in caves, and a mere 1 Million days living outside of them.

While we humans like to think we are and have highly evolved cultures, the real truth of it is actually something completely different. Millions of years of incomparable engineering and design revisions by Mother Nature are eminently more powerful than a few Johnny-come-lately cultural rules! The encumbrances of culture and civilization are designed to conceal the animals we are, and make us appear to be something else -- something we clearly are not. Sort of like putting a designer shirt and tie on a monkey and calling it civilized.

Our and our cultures often clash -- sometimes violently. We tell our children to discuss their differences, that fighting is never the answer. And yet, as I write this article there are at least four wars going on around the globe. Whether the clashes are violent or just humorous, they are always revealing and edifying.

Onward... Now, let's take a look at one of the most common clashes of genetics and culture...

The compulsion to reproduce is in our genetic makeup. In our DNA. It is not something we decide on or think about. We are driven to it -- quite potently -- by a collection of very robust and effective chemicals that have evolved over and billions of years -- since long before the first human took a step. We have only a very rudimentary understanding of these chemicals, some of which are hormones like testosterone and estrogen.

When a human male animal sees a human female animal that satisfies a certain set of parameters specific to that one male, then these indomitable chemicals are introduced into his body. The introduction of these chemicals into his system causes him to want to breed. That's right, "breed," as in "reproduce." The fact that we now refer to the act of intercourse as love making, does not alter the fact that the act was designed by nature for the purpose of reproduction -- not as something to express an emotional attachment. Even a mere four thousand years ago, intercourse was reserved for reproducing -- and nothing else.

For some reason, which is, and likely always will be under debate, culture decided that the reproductive relationship between male and female human animals should be monogamous and emotionally-laden. And so the problems began...

The need for male animals to find a suitable female of the species and reproduce is exceptionally well documented. When we humans view the animal kingdom (conveniently excluding ourselves, of course) we have no trouble at all recognizing what is going on. But when we look at ourselves, at our species, we get lost in our arrogance -- another trapping of culture.

Males finding a mate and breeding is much more than a matter of choice. Take the male black widow spider, for example. This stalwart fellow is but a fraction the size of the massive female of his species, and he carries no venom, unlike his deadly female counterpart. He approaches the female very cautiously, and even so, knows that his chances of surviving the mating encounter are less than 1:10. Still, he cannot stop himself -- he must go forward and try to breed with the selected female. This one example inescapably attests to the potency of the chemicals that force male animals to breed. Another good example of how potent the need to breed is can be seen in the Praying Mantis. The male of this species approaches his female knowing that she will most likely finish with him, then bite off his head and eat his tiny, lifeless body. By the way, female animals have chemicals that are just as potent, but they are not the centerpiece of this article.

Let's go a little higher on the evolutionary scale -- to some mammals. When you're on an island where walrus breed, you'll get to see some incredible battles as males fight for the right to breed with their chosen females. These behemoths use their tonnage and tusks to brutally defeat the competition in what are often long and very bloody battles. Sometimes these battles leave one of the males with wounds that ultimately prove to be fatal. Similarly dangerous and potentially lethal encounters among suitors are quite common in the animal kingdom.

Some male animals don't risk their life to breed with the girl of their dreams, but they must do things that are almost as challenging. Take the male Prairie Chicken, for example. To woo his bride-to-be he dances. It doesn't sound too difficult, until you take a closer look. The male stands close to and in front of the female and starts his dance, which consists of him stomping his feet very, very rapidly -- several times per second, in fact. As the female averts her gaze, the male, ever dancing, moves to again be in her line of sight. Several males may dance for her at the same time. She remains disinterested until she makes her selection -- which may take many, many hours of dancing. Males will dance until they collapse from exhaustion. Some say that such energy depleting displays help protect the females from overly aggressive male encounters which might harm them.

The more we study animal behavior, the more we can clearly see that the chemicals Mother Nature cooked up in her kitchen to make us need to breed are excruciatingly effective, and powerful well beyond our current understanding. To distill it down, male animals are willing (and eager) to kill or die to breed.

There are some animals that are naturally monogamous. That relatively short list includes Polar Bears and Bald Eagles. These animals take a mate for life just as naturally as a walrus bull takes an entire harem for only one season. This is how they've evolved.

Now, on to humans... Human animals are not naturally monogamous -- far from it. We talk about the concept of fidelity as though it were simply a matter of making a choice. Ladies, what is it that you think you can offer a male animal that outweighs his willingness to die? That's the equation, you know. When you ask that young man to pledge himself to 'breeding' only with you, you are asking him to fight off the overwhelming effects of all that carefully concocted chemistry.

I momentarily digress to some human examples of how powerful this chemistry can be: Anthony and Cleopatra; Helen of Troy, the face that launched a thousand ships; Monica Lewinsky, and President Bill Clinton. In all of these instances, men threw all reason out the window simply to breed with a specific female. Tens of thousands of people were killed in wars, empires shifted, and more -- all for the right for one male animal to breed with one female animal. Sounds much worse than the walrus battles, eh?

It is entirely possible for human animals to remain monogamous. There is no question about that. But it is not as easy for females as our culture would have us believe. And for males, well, it is one of the very hardest things to do in life. It is not simply a matter of the male saying to himself that from now on he will only breed with his chosen female, and then adhering to that in the face of occasional opportunities to do otherwise. It is more a matter of the male deactivating one of the most powerful drives in his body.

The drive to perpetuate the species is, for obvious reasons, a dominant compulsion. For a male human animal to truly suppress his chemically induced need to breed is about the same as controlling other genetically-based needs. These would include the needs for self preservation, food, air, sleep, and water. Try teaching yourself not to blink when something is flying towards your eye. Or try teaching yourself not to eat for a month, or not to drink for a week. Sounds tough, doesn't it? Well, it's really not much different than a male trying to teach himself not to be inexorably drawn to various females.

On the relatively bright side, this information should give all the ladies reading this article a pleasant new perspective on their male counterparts' infidelity. First of all, he is attracted to 'them' because of the chemistry of his body -- NOT because they are more attractive than you, and not because you are failing the relationship in any way at all. Most of all, it is not because he wants to be the way he is. He is that way because of billions of years of natural selection during evolution. In fact, quite a large percentage of males will experience overwhelming confusion and guilt after they have a sexual encounter outside of their committed relationship.

All of this explains, in a new way, not only why males violate their agreement to remain monogamous, but also why they tell the lie in the first place. They tell the lie as part of the genetic compulsion. The female prairie chicken demands a long, exhausting dance of her mate-to-be. A female human demands the promise of fidelity. It's much easier to tell a lie than dance around in the hot summer sun all day -- so the telling of this lie is actually quite a moderate action, all things considered. I imagine that those walrus (and many other species) would much prefer to tell a lie than to do potentially lethal battle.

How do you deal with all of this? That's something that each of us has to decide for ourselves. The point of this article is simply to promote people to deal with the issue of infidelity for what it really is -- not for what our culture has made it appear to be. To be sure, the commitment of fidelity for life from a male or female human is quite the gift, and one which can be given. But before it is given, and before it is believed, it should be put up on the table and discussed at length. The discussion should focus on the realities involved, not the tenor of the moment. During an intimate conversation between a male and female, it's easy (and natural) for the male to pledge his undying allegiance. The problems will occur later -- out of that setting -- perhaps at the beach, or while watching the evening news.

Considering that our culture's perspective of fidelity's importance to a relationship causes problems such as: most divorces; untold amounts of personal anguish, guilt and suffering for both males and females; and countless arguments and fights -- it may well be time to rethink our dedication to that obviously [unattainable] cultural ideal. And if you are one of those who genuinely believes that fidelity is a necessary component of a fulfilling life together, then when you strike your agreement, understand that you are battling the ageless efficiency and tenacity of nature -- not merely the wandering eye of a man who wants to stray. Eric Scribener is a 30-year veteran freelance writer and photographer currently on assignment for http://www.dotcomtucson.com/ - putting Tucson Arizona in the palm of your hand. ]]> What Men Really Want http://www.artwoo.com/article/what-men-really-want http://www.artwoo.com/article/what-men-really-want#comments Wed, 21 Mar 2007 10:48:00 +0000 monogamous relationshipperfect womanmen needmany menaboundlovedesire http://www.artwoo.com/article/what-men-really-want abound, television shows focus on it, and it is the question that every woman asks herself, "What do men really want?"

Studies and surveys have led to the top two answers to this question, "Sex and Respect". Yes, it's true. Men want plenty of sex and they seek the respect of their partners. This is in contrast to women who primarily and affection.

When it comes right down to it, men get a bad rap. They are often depicted as sex crazed party animals that have no level or desire of commitment, and this simply isn't the truth. There are who seek out a and are just waiting for the to enter the picture. Does this mean that the "perfect" woman is a human Barbie Doll?

According to current studies- no. Studies have shown that men are more interested in a woman that is committed to them, respects them, and validates their worth more than a meaningless tryst with a perfect "ten".



Of course men are attracted to a woman by her physical appearance and that is a main component to the relationship, but as any man in a relationship can tell you, looks wear thin after time and when it comes down to it, personality can make or break a relationship. Men want to be treated with respect and to know that they are appreciated and valued by their partners.

Many women are also surprised to discover that love. Often, acts of love, verbal affirmations, and the like are typically reserved for the female and often neglected when it comes to the man. Typically, he is the strong, dominant, tough one in the relationship, so women often neglect to tell or show him how much she loves him. However, many men have stated that this is a strong need that they have. Men need love just as much as women do. They need to hear it, they need to see it demonstrated in actions, and they need to feel it. Now, obviously this is where men's number one need comes in -- sex.

There is no getting around it. The number one way to show a man that his partner loves him is through sex. It is often ironic that women can go without sex much longer than a man, and never realize that he is suffering and feeling unloved. It is a wise woman who realizes that her man equates sex with love and understands that when she withholds sex, she is essentially telling him that she no longer loves, respects, or validates him. It is also easy to understand why men stray when they begin to feel that this area of their relationship is lacking.



It isn't necessarily that they feel they need a prettier woman, one with a better body, or more money. They are looking for love, because from the man's point of view, without sex the love is gone. When a woman withholds sex from her partner, she is essentially entering into territory where the future of her entire relationship is being threatened. If you truly love, respect, and validate your partner, communicate honestly with him. Never use sex as a weapon against him. Openly discuss issues as soon as they arise and give your man the respect he deserves, respect him enough to work things out without using sex to punish him. By keeping open communication with your partner, and discussing issues as soon as they arise, you can be sure that you will be giving your man what he really wants. Ron Zvagelsky has a degree in Business Administration from the University of Southern California. Use http://PlanJam.com to find additional dating and relationship advice along with date ideas. ]]> Cheating Boyfriends: Top 5 Signs Of A Cheating Boyfriend http://www.artwoo.com/article/cheating-boyfriends-top-5-signs-of-a-cheating-boyfriend http://www.artwoo.com/article/cheating-boyfriends-top-5-signs-of-a-cheating-boyfriend#comments Sun, 08 Jul 2007 22:24:59 +0000 signs of a cheating boyfriendsigns he is cheatingcheating boyfriendsex girlfriendsold girlfriendsfidelitymonogamous http://www.artwoo.com/article/cheating-boyfriends-top-5-signs-of-a-cheating-boyfriend Cheating boyfriends leave many signs and with a little patience, and by giving him lots of time and space to cheat, you can catch your cheating boyfriend without having to hire a costly private investigator. We have compiled a list of the top 5 so you can tell whether or not your boyfriend is cheating. Remember to pay attention to details and follow your gut instinct. In addition, if you and your boyfriend haven't clearly discussed whether the two of you are both in your relationship, don't assume he has just "automatically" decided to be faithful to only you. Maybe in your cheating boyfriend's mind, your relationship isn't serious enough for him to consider being faithful yet. Make sure you are both clear on where you stand regarding in your relationship.

1. Lack of intimacy. This doesn't always have to be in the form of sex. It can be a decline of touching, cuddling, holding hands or kissing.

2. He cheated on his . If you can talk to some of his old girlfriends, by all means, do it. However, make sure to ask his ex-girlfriends in a kind and calm manner so they do not become defensive. A cheating boyfriend will usually repeat their behavior with their next girlfriend.

3. He avoids you. A big sign of a cheating boyfriend is when he makes up all sorts of excuses as to why he can't be with you because he's spending time with his "other" girlfriend. If he has to work late, stay after school, is always with his friend's or co-workers more than usual, these could be the excuses your boyfriend is using to cover up his cheating ways.

4. He never answers his cell phone around you. A way to tell if your boyfriend is cheating is if he always turns his ringer off around you or walks out of hearing distance from you. These are big big red flags he may be cheating. If he receives calls at odd hours or speaks on the phone in a strange manner could also be .

5. He is irritable or criticizes you more. If your boyfriend's behavior suddenly changes, there is a possibility that he may be finding fault with you in order to justify his cheating in his mind. That way your cheating boyfriend can say you "drove" him away because of your supposed faults. The opposite of this behavior is being overly nice, giving gifts and being lovey-dovey because he wants to keep his cake (you) and eat it too (his other girlfriend).

If you discover your boyfriend is cheating, seek support from those around you like friends and family. Don't get revenge by sleeping with one of his friends because it just brings you down to his low level and you should strive to be the bigger person. The circumstances of your boyfriend's cheating will allow you to decide whether to leave or stay. It is very therapeutic to write down your anger, sadness and disappointment in the form of a letter or a cheating boyfriend poem. Allow yourself some grieving time and then get right back into the game of life by filling your life with activities that interest you. Online Dating and Infidelity Expert, Stephany Alexander, B.A. is CEO/Founder of http://www.WomanSavers.com, the "World's Largest Database Rating Men" and the author of "Sex, Lies and the Internet" - How to Avoid Being Scammed, Used and Abused by Men. Featured on FOX, CNN, New York Times, CNBC and more! ]]> Getting Back Into Dating http://www.artwoo.com/article/getting-back-into-dating http://www.artwoo.com/article/getting-back-into-dating#comments Fri, 09 Nov 2007 22:35:08 +0000 relationship experiencedating gamecoach potatomonogamousquirkslack of confidencesteady companion http://www.artwoo.com/article/getting-back-into-dating dating game for a while? There are a lot of reasons women remove themselves from dating: what was yours? Sometimes it's fear or . Other times it's the happy occurrence of becoming exclusive=97dating one particular man. Or maybe even becoming engaged or getting married.

If the plan didn't work out, or the relationship didn't last, you may be finding yourself re-entering the world of meeting new men, and looking for the kind of relationship you want today.

I say "today" because what you have in mind may have changed since your last . You need to find out if that's true for you, and if so, acknowledge that. For example:

*Where do you come out on your goal TODAY: are you looking for someone simply to have good times with, someone who will be a , or someone to legally marry?

*What kind of person are you looking for TODAY? Certainly the guidelines may have changed since the last time. Must that person be: fun, adventurous, studious, practical, openly affectionate in public, , a person desiring children, careful with money or a willing spender=85 committed to being childfree (or having no further offspring) or ready to start a new family? Must that person be financially fixed=97or wealthy, or simply debt-free=97or doesn't it matter?

*Where does that person desire to live? Living situations can make or break a relationship, believe it or not, so know where you're at, and how flexible you are at this particular point of your life.

*What are your negotiables ("I'd like to live with the person, but if he prefers to keep his own place for alone time=97that's okay with me")? What are your non-negotiables ("Same religion," "Non smoker," "Fit and athletic," "Likes to have fun" "Someone who's okay with my ways, even though he's super fit")?

*What are you special desires, and needs that absolutely need to be considered by you and your partner-to-be? Many of my love-and attraction clients hesitate to disclose these for a very long time. As a coach, I want to suggest that you don't make that mistake. Depending on what it is, it may not need to be discussed on your first or second date. But please don't wait till the engagement party! If you think what you need to say may be met with concern or distaste, it is doubly important that you disclose it. Honestly: Would you prefer to tell late and then discover that it's a deal breaker? A little discomfort now can eliminate a world of sorrow later. Be smart.

Lastly, some choices made in your twenties and thirties may not apply later, so do explore, be honest, and learn the difference between what is essential to you and what's not today. Flexibility is great, but don't lie to yourself or minimize your needs. That kind of behavior can result in misery later.

By the way, you need to set aside a time to re-discover your wants and needs. If you've recently come out of a relationship, you need some alone time to discover what is truly you and what is a left-behind attitude of your last coupling that wasn't really your own. =A9 2007 by Wendy Lapidus-Saltz Wendy Lapidus-Saltz, principal of Jaguar Mind LLC, is a mind coach certified in hypnotherapy, NLP and other disciplines. She created the Hypno-Attraction=AE Hypnosis for Love CD and workshops on the topic of love and relationship. Her office is located in Chicago's Gold Coast area. Website: http://www.hypno-attraction.com.

]]> Dating Advice For Women - Getting To Know The Good Guys http://www.artwoo.com/article/dating-advice-for-women-getting-to-know-the-good-guys http://www.artwoo.com/article/dating-advice-for-women-getting-to-know-the-good-guys#comments Wed, 13 Feb 2008 19:35:00 +0000 five feet sevendating advice for womenhonesty integrityloving relationshippopular beliefphysical appearancecase in fact http://www.artwoo.com/article/dating-advice-for-women-getting-to-know-the-good-guys
Well contrary to the held by women that all the good single guys are taken and that there are not enough good men left to date there is ample evidence to show that this is just not the case. In fact the average single guy looking for love is in-fact highly likely to be someone who has a good career as a teacher or tradesman. Statistically he will be over inches in height and will be relatively athletic and not too overweight. He will have an above-average appearance and will enjoy to cook, dance and also doesn't mind an occasional walk in the country along with going to the movies and eating out.

Look For Honest And Monogamous Males

The best would be to look for these `average' single guys who are also looking for a lasting, permanent and . Generally these men view monogamy positively and also pride themselves on being honest. These gentlemen are generally looking for a lady of a similar age, so women should concentrate on meeting guys either their own age or up to 5 years younger or older, depending on your preference.

Another important dating advice for women is to actually give the guy a chance. It is a common complaint among men that women are too quick to pass judgments and simply don't give them the opportunity to to get to know the women and to develop a relationship.

It is a known fact that women believe that most men place too much emphasis on , however, the same criticism can also be leveled against most women when they are out in the pursuit of a relationship with a man. In the single circles it is quite common for men to complain that they have been rejected by women on the basis of their looks and that their other valuable attributes like honesty, integrity and their caring nature have been totally ignored.

Did you know that most dating agencies will not initially show women photographs of prospective dates until the women has expressed an interest on meeting the man based on his job, interests and other factors like height and age, purely because women place so much emphasis on the importance of looks.

So my dating advice for women is that if you are seriously looking for a new partner forget about finding that `perfect looking man' and expand your horizons by looking for more desirable qualities in men, such as finding someone who has similar interests and good communication skills. Today, women have many more opportunities to meet men than the single women of 50 years ago who generally did not have jobs and found it difficult to meet eligible men. Women have a very big presence in the workforce and this allows ample opportunity to meet and develop relationships with men during and after work.

Ladies, you should not be intent on meeting the perfect match straight away. Instead it is better to date someone who has a few of the personal qualities you are interested in and with a little luck this person may become your `ideal partner'. As the old saying goes 'you can't judge a book by the cover', so be open and willing to speak with men before you make a judgment based purely on their looks. By taking this approach you do not have much to lose but you could certainly have plenty to gain. For An Online Guide To The Dating World With Free Dating Tips, Confidence Boosters and Dating Advice For Women And Men Visit http://www.firstclassdatingtips.com/ ]]> How To Have A Good Dating Experience http://www.artwoo.com/article/how-to-have-a-good-dating-experience http://www.artwoo.com/article/how-to-have-a-good-dating-experience#comments Tue, 22 Jan 2008 05:20:01 +0000 practicing safe sexself help booksstellar communicationmonogamous relationshiprelationship workgood relationshipcourtship http://www.artwoo.com/article/how-to-have-a-good-dating-experience
is a gradual process that takes a lot of time in getting to know the person better. Many people who start dating have started off as friends with the person they're dating, so they know things about them that makes them potentially good partners in a relationship. However, this doesn't mean that it's easy to talk to them about safe sex.

There are so many books giving advice on what to do when you begin dating someone, how to talk about safe sex and things to look for while you're dating that person. The unique thing with self-help books is that each writer's views are different so it doesn't sound repetitive even though the concepts are the same, but the views are very different, including those surrounding safe sex.

Yet there's so much that goes into a which many people aren't fully aware of until they've dated enough people who were wrong for them to fully understand the traits of a good relationship. The traits of a good courtship always follows true that you need communication, including talking about safe sex and birth control, because if you don't have those talks and that , you are not able to establish a basic level of trust. You want to be able to trust the person you are with, and honesty, which goes hand in hand with trust, is so essential because you want to know that your significant other is not cheating on you with other people. When you just begin dating someone, it's very important to ensure that you are , because you just never know if you are truly in a or not.

Part of a good courtship is that the people involved are also committed to making their and also understanding each other's feelings, especially about safe sex and birth control. Effective listening is important because you want to make the person you're dating feel like their thoughts and feelings matter. Discussing safe sex should rank at the top of your list and while the conversation may feel uncomfortable, it shouldn't be uncomfortable.

Couples who don't talk about important issues like safe sex and birth control are the ones who are likely to break up because you're not opening the channel for communication and talking about your feelings, your thoughts and your ideas. When you can't talk about what you're thinking and feeling, including topics like safe sex, that can also weaken a relationship's durability in terms of people staying together as a couple. This is why some couples do resort to counseling because they want to be able to figure out the issues in their relationship and to work through things in order to have a relationship that works.

Dating has changed quite a bit and the way courtships go. Today's dating age is a lot different than in the past generations where people actually took the time to get to know each other. In today's world, it is important to discuss important issues like safe sex and birth control and not rush into things. However, now things are pretty hurried and nobody gives the adequate time to get to know each other and talk about safe sex. People are becoming sexually involved too fast after meeting each other without talking about how they are going to protect themselves. This is risky behavior because people are not taking the time to get to know someone's sexual history or anything about them.

Most relationships don't last when the people involved are having sex too fast before getting to know each other or at least talking about safe sex and birth control. This is why some counselors advise people in self-help books to wait before getting intimate with each other, talk about safe sex and to give time to getting to know each other well before taking the relationship to that next level. CondomMan is a leading safe sex educator and online retailer of name brand wholesale condoms like Durex, Trojan, Lifestyles, Crown and Beyond Seven condoms for the best prices online. Learn about contraceptives, birth control options, and how to put on a condom. http://www.condomman.com ]]> How To Attract Anyone You Want http://www.artwoo.com/article/how-to-attract-anyone-you-want http://www.artwoo.com/article/how-to-attract-anyone-you-want#comments Sat, 23 Dec 2006 22:27:26 +0000 men and womentoessmileeye contactattracting womengood listenerwomen men http://www.artwoo.com/article/how-to-attract-anyone-you-want men and women to attract anyone they want. First of all, no matter where you are, always appear friendly and approachable to everyone. Women want men to know that they are strong but it is not recommended that you take up too much space in the area you are standing in.

Women should stand with their pointed at a slightly inward angle and their feet should be no more than six inches apart from the other. For men, a dominant stanch is what draws in women. Men are able to take up a larger area of space without looking superior and their toes should point outward with their feet approximately six to ten inches apart.

If you are a man who has trouble , wear clothes that are conservative in style. This works for your haircut as well. Always remember to hold your head up when you are out in public and speaking with others and speak a little faster as it makes you appear both very competent as well as assertive.

Body language speaks volumes to the opposite sex so do not slouch, appear bored, fold your arms and do not engage in chewing your fingernails, gum or even ice cubes. The chewing action translates to feelings of frustration, nervousness or anxiety and these are all turnoffs for the opposite sex.

Smiling puts other individuals at ease and makes you appear warm, friendly and approachable. Make sure though that you are wearing a normal, regular and not a phony, plastered on smile. Also always keep with a person you are conversing with and keep the tone of your voice pleasant and interested in the conversation. Remember that being a makes you more attractive as well.

Color has a way of drawing in the opposite sex and different colors work for men and women. The color blue attracts women to men as blue often symbolizes that a man is capable of being monogamous, is stable, dependable and loyal. Blue is a reassuring color for a woman. It is recommended that women wear a color that complements their skin tone to attract men and for most women that means a pink or peach color which also makes them appear approachable. Pink is a vulnerable shade that is very feminine and for that reason it appeals to the protective side of a man's nature. As well pink gives the skin a healthy look, which is always good.

Strong women often enjoy wearing strong colors such as deep red, plum or burgundy and a man who cannot handle this kind of a woman is not likely to approach one wearing any of these shades. Red is a very seductive, sensual color but it is also the color that stands for both sex and power. Red is exciting and gets the adrenalin racing but always wear it with caution.

The color to avoid for both sexes is the yellowish green shade that looks like a caterpillar. This shade is not advisable to wear for either men or women who wish to attract the opposite sex. In fact this color often does not complement many people's skin coloring.

Scents play a role in attraction and studies have shown that men are attracted to the scents of vanilla and cinnamon while women like the smell of black licorice. If you can incorporate any of these into your attraction repertoire then go ahead and do so! Dustin is owner of http://JustArticlesVIP.com and writes on a variety of subjects. To learn more about this topic Dustin recommends you visit: http://www.adult-easy-dating.com/ ]]> Love, Think And Eat Your Way To The PMP Exam http://www.artwoo.com/article/love-think-and-eat-your-way-to-the-pmp-exam http://www.artwoo.com/article/love-think-and-eat-your-way-to-the-pmp-exam#comments Sat, 15 Nov 2008 16:01:23 +0000 hook line and sinkermonogamous sexlifestyle demandsbrain boosterspmp examblood circulationbrain power http://www.artwoo.com/article/love-think-and-eat-your-way-to-the-pmp-exam PMP exam is not your average high school examination where you can cram like crazy, feign failure of physical fitness on the day of the exam, and cross your fingers your teacher will swallow your Oscar-worthy performance hook, line and sinker. In short order, you have to prepare most rigorously for the PMP exam.

After all, passing this Professional Management Institute-administered examination is not just one more gem in your crown of achievements. You can cash in on your credentials with juicier job opportunities, for one thing. However, age, health, and can get in the way of preparation and concentration. You need these to get your back on track while you enjoy doing them.

Love, Love, Love

Literally, that is. When you feel like slacking off on your review, you should make love to your wife or girlfriend. You have to be warned though: great is still the best mood booster.

And when you mood is better, you feel better, you concentrate better, you memorize better and you understand better. Now, if only you will not fall asleep after all that horizontal ballroom dancing because your PMP exam review materials are waiting for you to caress them, too.

Also, you can love your body by doing simple exercises in between reading and answering your review materials. When you exercise, you improve throughout your body, thereby increasing blood flow to your brain. You can just stand up, touch your toes, and do jumping jacks for a few minutes to get your brain juices flowing again.

Furthermore, a hug, a kiss, a few encouraging words to family members and friends to show you care for them is good for your exam preparation. You have to tap into your support system to ensure that you keep your sanity in the midst of it all.

Think, Think, Think

But not negative thoughts. You have to stay positive for most of the times you are preparing for the PMP exam. Remember that what we think, we become. The key is in controlling your thoughts towards the things you desire, visualizing those things clearly in your mind and taking inspired action towards the attainment of your goals.

To achieve a positive state of mind, you have to surround yourself with positive people. You should be around family and friends who will make you laugh and relax, think positive thoughts, share the same interests and understand your PMP exam preparation for what it is - very important to your career but secondary to your personal life.

That being said, you need to avoid people who do nothing but complain about the unfairness of life. You can get depressed and discouraged just listening to them whine.

Eat, Eat, Eat

Just don't overdo it. You have to eat to keep up your energy. However, don't eat everything in sight and take the book-under-the-pillow to extremes by turning it into a PMBOK-eating exercise.

Keep these tips in mind when choosing what foods to eat: 1) keep unhealthy fats off your plate; 2) go for dark-colored fruits and vegetables especially spinach and broccoli; 3) eat plenty of fish like salmon, mackerel, tuna and sardines; and 4) chow down on whole grains like brown rice and whole-wheat pasta.

When you have enough love from your family and friends, have positive thoughts and have eaten healthy, you can be sure to ace your PMP exam. Now, buckle down and achieve another feather to your cap!With Threeo.ca, you will have the best PMP Course and PMP Exam Preparation from one of the most successful PMI Registered Education Provider for the PMP Exam . Visit them now!]]> Love, Think and Eat Your Way to the PMP Exam http://www.artwoo.com/article/love-think-and-eat-your-way-to-the-pmp-exam http://www.artwoo.com/article/love-think-and-eat-your-way-to-the-pmp-exam#comments Thu, 30 Oct 2008 14:08:25 +0000 hook line and sinkermonogamous sexlifestyle demandsbrain boosterspmp examblood circulationbrain power http://www.artwoo.com/article/love-think-and-eat-your-way-to-the-pmp-exam PMP exam is not your average high school examination where you can cram like crazy, feign failure of physical fitness on the day of the exam, and cross your fingers your teacher will swallow your Oscar-worthy performance hook, line and sinker. In short order, you have to prepare most rigorously for the PMP exam.

After all, passing this Professional Management Institute-administered examination is not just one more gem in your crown of achievements. You can cash in on your credentials with juicier job opportunities, for one thing. However, age, health, and can get in the way of preparation and concentration. You need these to get your back on track while you enjoy doing them.

Love, Love, Love

Literally, that is. When you feel like slacking off on your review, you should make love to your wife or girlfriend. You have to be warned though: great is still the best mood booster.

And when you mood is better, you feel better, you concentrate better, you memorize better and you understand better. Now, if only you will not fall asleep after all that horizontal ballroom dancing because your PMP exam review materials are waiting for you to caress them, too.

Also, you can love your body by doing simple exercises in between reading and answering your review materials. When you exercise, you improve throughout your body, thereby increasing blood flow to your brain. You can just stand up, touch your toes, and do jumping jacks for a few minutes to get your brain juices flowing again.

Furthermore, a hug, a kiss, a few encouraging words to family members and friends to show you care for them is good for your exam preparation. You have to tap into your support system to ensure that you keep your sanity in the midst of it all.

Think, Think, Think

But not negative thoughts. You have to stay positive for most of the times you are preparing for the PMP exam. Remember that what we think, we become. The key is in controlling your thoughts towards the things you desire, visualizing those things clearly in your mind and taking inspired action towards the attainment of your goals.

To achieve a positive state of mind, you have to surround yourself with positive people. You should be around family and friends who will make you laugh and relax, think positive thoughts, share the same interests and understand your PMP exam preparation for what it is - very important to your career but secondary to your personal life.

That being said, you need to avoid people who do nothing but complain about the unfairness of life. You can get depressed and discouraged just listening to them whine.

Eat, Eat, Eat

Just don't overdo it. You have to eat to keep up your energy. However, don't eat everything in sight and take the book-under-the-pillow to extremes by turning it into a PMBOK-eating exercise.

Keep these tips in mind when choosing what foods to eat: 1) keep unhealthy fats off your plate; 2) go for dark-colored fruits and vegetables especially spinach and broccoli; 3) eat plenty of fish like salmon, mackerel, tuna and sardines; and 4) chow down on whole grains like brown rice and whole-wheat pasta.

When you have enough love from your family and friends, have positive thoughts and have eaten healthy, you can be sure to ace your PMP exam. Now, buckle down and achieve another feather to your cap!With threeO-Project-Solutions.com, you will have the best PMP Course and PMP Exam Preparation from one of the most successful PMI Registered Education Provider for the PMP Exam . Visit them now!]]> Bladder Infection Awareness Among Women http://www.artwoo.com/article/bladder-infection-awareness-among-women http://www.artwoo.com/article/bladder-infection-awareness-among-women#comments Wed, 12 Mar 2008 19:25:00 +0000 vagina womenurinary tract infectionssexual intercoursemonogamous relationshipsburning sensationweak bladdervaginal area http://www.artwoo.com/article/bladder-infection-awareness-among-women
One of the most common causes of UTI is bacteria that live on the skin on or near the vagina which then can easily spread into the urinary tract. When women feel a urinary tract infection, it is the bacteria reaching all the way to the bladder, causing the infection.

Women are definitely more susceptible to since is the most common way to have a UTI. With all the movement during intercourse, if any bacteria are present in the , it can easily be picked up by the penis and enter the vagina.

Women who have sexual intercourse more frequently or change sexual partners often begin having urinary tract infections more often than women in . There are some women that get a urinary tract infection every time they have intercourse.

Waiting to urinate beyond when your body tells you to be another cause of UTI. The bladder is a muscle that when full, it expands and contracts when it is empty. When the bladder is not emptied right away and if forced to stay full, it expands beyond normal capacity and thus makes it weaker. The problem with this is only a strong bladder can get all of the urine out. A will cause some urine to stay in the bladder after emptied and it will cause an infection.

Symptoms of an UTI are easily to recognize. It is a strong urge to urinate in which you need to go right away and followed by a in the urethra when you do urinate. On most occasions, only a small amount of urine comes out, making the infection more painful.

As with any other infection, antibiotics may be used to fight the infection. It is necessary to finish the medication, as UTI's are easy to come back if not treated correctly.

It is important that if you do frequently get UTI's, you might want to look to a supplement as a preventative measure. There are some supplements that are designed just for this irritation and Bladder Health. Most supplements will carry a cranberry extract.

Here are just a few tips that will decrease your chances of getting a urinary tract infection:

Drinking a lot of water is one preventative way of containing an UTI. When we drink plenty of water, our body is constantly flushing out bacteria. But remember the more you drink, the more you will urinate so make sure you do urinate when your bladder feels full and lets you know it is time to go.

Practicing excellent personal hygiene is the number one way to decrease the risk of UTI. When showering, make sure you clean all the areas on and near where infections can occur.

Cranberry juice is a natural supplement. Cranberry is natural and it helps to keep the urinary tract clean and free of toxins. Cranberry comes in liquid and pill forms.

Vitamin C is good for the urine since it causes it to become acidic, resulting in the reduction of bacteria entering the urinary tract system.

Urinary Tract Infections are more common than we may think and can become painful. Remember that this can be easily treatable and there are plenty of supplements you can take to aid in preventing UTI's. When these symptoms are treated early on, the infection is easier to go away. Remember that if you think your problem is serious, please consult your doctor. Steven Johnson is interested in maintaining a vital, active, and healthy lifestyle. For more information or to obtain antioxidant related products, as well as other life-enhancing nutrients, please visit his website http://www.alternative-health-supplements.com/bladder-health.htm ]]> Kalenjin Wedding Tradtions http://www.artwoo.com/article/kalenjin-wedding-tradtions http://www.artwoo.com/article/kalenjin-wedding-tradtions#comments Thu, 16 Oct 2008 04:01:26 +0000 weddings dressestoronto weddingsankle bellskalenjinanimal skinsbride pricewestern highlands http://www.artwoo.com/article/kalenjin-wedding-tradtions Kalenjin are a Kenyan ethnic community that comprises of eight tribes. They are about 2.7 Million Kalenjins who live in the Kenyan . The name Kalenjin roughly translates to 'I tell you'. Weddings and wedding photos are a blend of tradition and modern style. There are certain preparations that a couple must go through before a wedding and one cannot be considered marriageable until they are fulfilled.

First, the young men and women must have gone through some traditional initiation passages or tumdo, which graduate them to join members of certain age-sets known as ipinda. The males undergo circumcision and stay in seclusion for a long time. Here, they are instructed on how to take care of the home and the cattle. There are also lessons on how to be good warriors. The young women learn how to make pots and gourds for carrying water, how to fetch and carry firewood and how to find wild vegetables, which they used as their meals. They are also taught how to take care of their children and cook.

Although there are no wedding photos at this stage, Kalenjin weddings, just like , are usually graced with a lot of traditional food including the staple ugali, prepared from white corn and boiling water, meat and whole milk that is fermented and stored in a gourd, which is cleaned using charcoal. There is music with dancers wearing and drums, flutes and horns being played. Traditionally, the bridal party would wear , hides, traditional ornaments and earrings. Today they can wear suits and and even have wedding photos at the ceremony. The Kalenjin weddings can also include some local brews like busaa, which is prepared from fried and fermented millet and corn.

After the wedding, the man takes his new wife inside or near his father's homestead where a house has been built for the new couple. Polygamy is still allowed if one can afford to pay the for more than one wife. Children are seen as a blessing in the Kalenjin and other Kenyan communities and, until recently, Kenya was the leading country in population growth worldwide. Today most Kalenjin weddings are made up of monogamous nuclear families with many wedding photos as memorabilia.

In Kalenjin weddings like Toronto weddings, much consideration is taken in the bride's beauty and health, bridal showers, flowers and decorations. Much planning goes into the wedding photos, honeymoon, travel, jewelry, gifts, transportation and reception. Regardless of where the couple may be there are traditions that must be done including paying of the bride price if they are to be wed.

The main difference between Toronto and Kalenjin weddings is the bride price. The bride price is a token of appreciation to the girl's parents for taking such good care of her over the years. In Kalenjin weddings, this is usually counted in cattle. However, modern Kalenjins normally take the equivalent in cash. In Toronto, a bride price is not considered at all. With cultures, merging each day there might soon be no difference between a Toronto and a Kalenjin wedding.Wedding Photos Wedding Photography and Video Productions Toronto we specialize in individually tailored Wedding Photography, Videos and DVD's, offering an experienced, highly professional and affordable service. for more info vist:http://www.VideoBabylon.ca/]]> Surviving Infidelity: Advice On How To Survive Infidelity http://www.artwoo.com/article/surviving-infidelity-advice-on-how-to-survive-infidelity http://www.artwoo.com/article/surviving-infidelity-advice-on-how-to-survive-infidelity#comments Wed, 11 Jul 2007 03:25:01 +0000 surviving infidelityoverwhelming emotionsbetrayed spousemarriage therapistson the contraryunfaithfulgeneral trust http://www.artwoo.com/article/surviving-infidelity-advice-on-how-to-survive-infidelity marriage therapists have well confirmed that the clients who visit them have confessed that the discovery of an affair was the lowest, darkest moment of their entire lives. And because affairs shatter the , many people seriously contemplate ending their marriages. However, it is important to know that, no matter bleak things might seem, it is possible to revitalize a marriage wounded by infidelity. It is not so easy: there are no quick fix, one-size-fits-all solutions. But years of experience has taught that there are definite patterns to what people in loving relationships do to bring their marriages back from the brink of disaster.

involves teamwork; both spouses should be fully committed to the hard work of getting their marriages back on track. The partner must be willing to end the affair and do whatever it takes to win back the trust of his/her spouse. The should be willing to find ways to manage so, as a couple, they can start to sort out how the affair happened, and more importantly, what needs to change so that it never happens again. Although no two people, marriages or paths to recovery are similar, it is helpful to know that healing typically happens in stages.

In a poll of over 136,000 women conducted by WomanSaversdotcom, over 55% of women caught their man cheating red handed and 36% suspected him or cheating but never caught him. If you recently discovered that your spouse has been unfaithful, you will certainly feel a whole range of emotions: shock, rage, hurt, devastation, disillusionment, and intense sadness. You may have difficulty in sleeping or eating, or feel completely obsessed with the affair. If you are a touching person, you may cry a lot. You may want to be alone, or , feel at your worst when you are. Although you may be telling yourself that your marriage will never improve, it will, but not immediately. Surviving from infidelity takes a long time. Just when you think things are looking up, something reminds you of the affair and you go downhill quickly. It is easy to feel discouraged unless you both keep in mind that intense ups and downs are the norm.

Although some people are more curious than others, it is very common to have lots of questions about the affair, especially initially. Although the details may be uncomfortable to hear, simply knowing your spouse is willing to "come clean" helps people recover. As the unfaithful spouse, you may feel tremendous remorse and guilt, and prefer avoiding the details entirely, but experience shows that this is a formula for disaster.

Another necessary ingredient for rebuilding a marriage involves the willingness of unfaithful spouses to display sincere regret and remorse. You cannot apologize often enough. You need to tell your spouse that you will never commit this again. Although, since you are working diligently to repair your relationship, you may think your intentions to be monogamous are obvious, they are not. Tell your spouse of your plans to take your promise to your marriage to heart. This will be particularly significant during the early stages of recovery when mistrust is rampant.

Ultimately, the key to healing from infidelity involves forgiveness, which is often the last step in the healing process. The unfaithful spouse can do everything right and still, the marriage will not mend unless the betrayed person forgives his or her spouse and the unfaithful spouse forgives him or herself. Online Dating and Infidelity Expert, Stephany Alexander, B.A. is CEO/Founder of http://www.WomanSavers.com, the "World's Largest Database Rating Men" and the author of "Sex, Lies and the Internet" - How to Avoid Being Scammed, Used and Abused by Men. Featured on FOX, CNN, New York Times, CNBC and more! ]]> Do You Have Birth Control High Blood Pressure Concerns? http://www.artwoo.com/article/do-you-have-birth-control-high-blood-pressure-concerns http://www.artwoo.com/article/do-you-have-birth-control-high-blood-pressure-concerns#comments Thu, 13 Sep 2007 12:15:00 +0000 high blood pressurecause of high blood pressurebirth control methodsmethods of birth controlbirth control patchhistory of hypertensionrisk factors http://www.artwoo.com/article/do-you-have-birth-control-high-blood-pressure-concerns high blood pressure symptoms can be a problem for women taking certain types of hormonal contraceptives. The two that pose the most risk include the birth control pill and the .

However, not every woman who uses these will experience high blood pressure, as there are many factors involved that generally determine the degree of risk each woman faces.

Nevertheless, the reason why hormonal birth control high blood pressure risk exists, is because these contraceptives contain progestins. Progestin is a type if drug that mirrors the activity of the hormone progesterone which naturally occurs in the female body.

It is common for progestin to slightly raise the blood pressure in most women who take hormonal birth control, and it is the when it occurs.

The risk of birth control causing high blood pressure increases for a woman based on the following factors:

and#61614; Age =96 As a woman ages (usually mid 35 and older), her chances of developing high blood pressure increases.

and#61614; Duration of use =96 The longer a woman uses the pill or patch, the greater the chances of high blood pressure occurring.

and#61614; Pre-existing condition =96 Women who have previously experienced episodes of consistent high blood pressure, even only if it was during pregnancy, are at a greater risk.

and#61614; Family history =96 Women who have a family could be at a greater risk.

and#61614; Obesity =96 a woman who is obese has a greater risk of developing high blood pressure.

Hormonal contraception is one of the most convenient and effective methods of birth control, but it is a fact that high blood pressure occurs 2- 3 times more frequently in women who take hormonal contraceptives than those who use other methods.

Therefore, if you take the pill or are using the patch - regardless if you have any of the above increased or not - have your doctor check your blood pressure every year.

Should you discover you have developed high blood pressure, you should stop taking hormonal contraceptives and seek out other birth control methods. Once off the pill or the patch, your blood pressure should return to normal within 3 to 6 months.

Keep in mind that although you can take hormonal methods of birth control if you have high blood pressure that is being regulated with medications, you will need to have your blood pressure closely monitored by your doctor. Nonetheless, it is strongly advised that anyone who had, has, or is at a greater risk of developing high blood pressure, use other birth control methods.

The following are safe methods of birth control that doesn't put a woman at high blood pressure risk:

and#61614; Barrier birth control methods =96 condoms, diaphragm, sponge, cervical cap. Each of these methods is disposed of after sexual intercourse.

and#61614; Birth control injection =96 DepoProvera is a shot containing synthetic progestin (different from the pill and patch) administered via a needle every three months. DepoProvera a long-term method of birth control.

and#61614; Birth control implant - Norplant is a progestin capsule that is inserted into the upper arm and lasts for 5 years. An IUD (intrauterine device) is a T-shaped device that is inserted into the uterus (and can last a year or 10 years depending on the type) and is very effective at preventing pregnancy. The IUD is recommended for those women who are in a long-term monogamous relationship.

Keep in mind that even though the above do not directly impact high blood pressure, the shots and implants do have side effects, and none of the above contraception (including the pill and patch), except for the condom, prevent the transmission of STD's (sexually transmitted diseases). Therefore, make sure you discuss your contraceptive options with your health care provider if birth control high blood pressure is a risk factor for you. Grab your free copy of Paul Johnson's brand new Blood Pressure newsletter here http://www.natural-blood-pressure- http://reduction.com/?source=is which is overflowing with easy to implement methods to help you manage high blood pressure. ]]> Relationship Conflicts - Part 1 http://www.artwoo.com/article/relationship-conflicts-part-1 http://www.artwoo.com/article/relationship-conflicts-part-1#comments Tue, 16 Oct 2007 01:35:01 +0000 relationship conflictsconflictparallel relationshipsthinking clive actgrowth situationspersonal freedom http://www.artwoo.com/article/relationship-conflicts-part-1 conflicts I have noticed in counseling relationship partners and families over the years. You may find a little of yourself in some of these descriptions.

Women generally complain that their spouses:

a. Do not pay enough attention to them.

b. Do not communicate what they are feeling or thinking.

c. Are not affectionate enough.

d. Are overly focused on their work.

e. Do not treat them as equals.

f. In sex, tend to be quick and premature in their orgasms.

g. Are not sensitive and understanding.

h. Are not home often enough.

i. Do not appreciate the work in the home or reimburse them for it.

j. Make decisions about work and life without regarding woman's and families needs.

k. Are not monogamous and create .

While men generally complain that women:

a. Want to talk too much.

b. Complain and criticize them frequently.

c. Try to suppress their (the men's) , usually by complaining, nagging or criticizing.

d. Do not reason logically.

e. Are never happy.

f. Withhold sex for personal and sometime vindictive reasons.

g. Are overly emotional with moods that change from one moment to the next.

h. Are unpredictable,

i. Tend to Gossip

j. Are not faithful in some cases.

k. Are not home enough.

l. Are not sufficiently taking care of home.

The differing needs and ways in which men and women think, feel and behave often lead to misunderstandings and conflicts. These problems can be excellent if handled maturely and lovingly. If not, they can lead to chronic conflict, isolation or separation.

Let us now look at some of the more common . Our different needs, or more often, our different ways of satisfying those needs, bring us into conflict as to how we should live, act or interact. It is very common for two or more people who have exactly the same needs to have different perceptions as to how they can or should fulfill those needs.

Let us look at some examples.

WHO IS RIGHT?

Most of the games and roles we will discuss further on are also in some way related to this question of "who is right." It is difficult for most people to realize that we can differ in our ways of thinking, acting, and approaching life and still both be "right." We believe there must be only one right way. Because of this, we feel the need to change the other, to make him or her perceive and approach life in the same manner we do. We fear that if the other's way is right, then ours must be wrong. It seldom dawns on us that the other's way could be right for him or her and ours could be right for us, that we can live harmoniously with this difference, and that there is no need to change him or her so as to prove we are right.

This is an extremely important point. Although we seem to fight over such matters as cleanliness, communication, discipline or freedom, in reality, what is most often important to us is determining "who is right." We want the other to accept our point not so much so as to fulfill a need or value, but because we are convinced that winning this case will make us "right."

This complicates matters even more because in some cases we are not discussing or arguing about the real needs or issues. We may be talking about our beliefs regarding how to bring up our children, but our actual need is self-verification through the other's admission that we are right and the other is wrong. We are not talking about our real need, i.e. self-affirmation or self-confidence, and thus we cannot find any solution for the problem because we do not realize what the real problem is.

This may not be true in every case, but it is in a large number of cases and we would do well to search within in order to determine how much, if at all, our problem is infiltrated by this need for affirmation. In such cases, we will need to cultivate greater self-confidence and self-acceptance so we can free ourselves from this need for approval through such games that are destructive to our relationships and to our own happiness. (The book "The Psychology of Happiness" will be of help in this effort..)

Let us keep the above point in mind as we look at some of the more common conflicts that infiltrate our personal and professional relationships.

(See part 2) Robert Elias Najemy, a life coach with 30 years of experience, is the author of over 20 books, 600 articles and 400 lectures on Human Harmony. Download wonderful ebooks, 100's of free articles, courses, and mp3 audio lectures at http://www.HolisticHarmony.com. Find 8 of his books at http://www.Amazon.com. ]]> Are You Consumed By Extreme Jealousy? http://www.artwoo.com/article/are-you-consumed-by-extreme-jealousy http://www.artwoo.com/article/are-you-consumed-by-extreme-jealousy#comments Fri, 30 Nov 2007 10:35:00 +0000 jealousypolygamous marriagesmonogamous relationshiplove affairmarginalized culturessolvent watercontemporary society http://www.artwoo.com/article/are-you-consumed-by-extreme-jealousy jealousy"? This civil and would associate it with a person who is wasted away by too much jealousy that he can harm. In a funny way, say a soluble rock salt is placed in a solvent, (water) it will be dissolved until it is gone. In a relationship, when a man is consumed with jealousy, there are 1001 ways of anticipating the outcome of a relationship in various opinions. All in all, jealousy is simply dependent on a person's mind-set.

But what is jealousy by the way? Jealousy is an emotional state where a person wants to have what the other person has and the desire to make it happen. An example is when a child gets jealous of the attention given by the parent to a physically incapacitated sibling. It is also the feeling when tends to draw it toward himself and to no one. An example of this is when a man admires a friend's fianc=E9e, he dreads the idea that the girl is giving his friend the love he could not have but he longs to divert that love to him alone. The feeling dwells within him for quite a while until it affects his thoughts and moods. It dominates to the point that it creates negative consequences.

The above example, if you will notice is a picture of the typical modern society as it has been declared by the common visual influence or social heredity of this generation that we commonly see in TVs, movies, papers, day to day experiences. Youngsters are either consumed or not by jealousy in a common . There are ways to give it shallow reasoning, counseling, advice, and even self-help solution. As far as is concerned, love jealousy is a fashion.

But it could give a simple twist if we talk about like the way it is practiced by some . When jealousy is a universal feeling of any human being, marital jealousy does not interfere with the functioning of polygamous society. They are never consumed by jealousy. It is strange and ironic that this group of people had been mind-set to a different face of life where they can give their women and daughter for noble reasons. In this case, social orientation has a power on human emotion. Jealousy in this culture lies in a different sublevel of the brain.

Well, what can we do, this is the working of the world, while we are just a piece of it=85?

What about a common man consumed by jealousy? In the mainstream world today, there are not only one person getting jealous everyday, but most people. Jealousy is an emotion in which commonness rendered it as an insignificant happening of the days. It is oftentimes associated with insecurity and the loads of negative opinion dominating the reasoning. This emotion is oftentimes dipped in so many mixtures of other tendencies, which psychiatry and divorce courts are dealing with in small or dominating percentage. It is buried in every bits of relating.

While love is a very complex emotional involvement a human can indulge with, it is hard to figure out why it is a mixture of being selfless and at the same time spiced with some amounts of jealousy. That kind of situation is tolerable. When one is consumed by extreme jealousy, it will mean a symptom of a greater problem. It will give birth and attract other negative forces like anger, emptiness, worthlessness, discontentment, procrastination and many other depressive thinking. When one accepts jealousy as part of his love affair or a part of his loving, then it is habit forming. The brain is molded to provide a space for this emotion. A jealous person has a tendency to harm than to give comfort, and to some higher levels of uncontrollable state, it can cause violence and crime.

Jealousy is a part of the world's social living that will never go away, as it is an emotional state. But it can be controlled if one believes on the capacity of the mind to set an individual influence to it. If sexual jealousy rarely exists in polygamous society, then, why will a common man be consumed by jealousy? My Relationship Tips (http://www.datingsupportcenter.com) has hundreds of relationship and dating articles for men and women. ]]>